Husband and wife 2 has not consummated yet

[cemp]

We are going at a snails pace and was thinking that it may help the situation a little if the first wife watched so she did not feel left out and that I would feel like I was not doing anything wrong and the 2nd wife would have some encouragement. Is this unheard of? Have I totally lost my mind? I would die to find out that I have hurt either one of them. Any and all advice is welcomed!!!!!

 

[Tlaloc]

Yeah, if everyone is comfortable you might as well all enjoy each other. If they are both part of you I believe you can do no wrong unless you say something is wrong.

Of course, for us asking if a new wife is comfortable with everyone together is on our list of things we need for her to fit in. Both our girlfriends thought it would be better that way for relationships and minimizing jealousy.

 

[cemp]

Thank you for your reply. I was uncertain the meaning of "keep the marriage bed sacred" We all have agreed to be one ! But is it acceptable to christ to have them both in my bed at once?

 

[PolyPride]

We are going at a snails pace and was thinking that it may help the situation a little if the first wife watched so she did not feel left out and that I would feel like I was not doing anything wrong and the 2nd wife would have some encouragement. Is this unheard of? Have I totally lost my mind? I would die to find out that I have hurt either one of them. Any and all advice is welcomed!!!!!

Thank you for your reply. I was uncertain the meaning of "keep the marriage bed sacred" We all have agreed to be one ! But is it acceptable to christ to have them both in my bed at once?

It would not be a sin if all 3 of you slept with each other. It would only be a sin if all of you were having sex with each other because the only moral sex to God is that between a male and a female and in marriage. I would also say that the women in your life are not married to each other in God's eyes because marriage is between a man and a woman, so a man having more than one wife would have to have each wife as a separate marriage relationship, which would give you multiple marriages (i.e. plural marriage). You guys are all one in that you're a family but you guys aren't one in a marital or intimate sense.

Leviticus 18:4-23 are the only passages that I've found that speak to watching someone nude other than your own kids. You can also add that verse about the "lusting in your heart" that Jesus mentions, which is probably the only or the biggest reason behind why most men and women would willingly look at nudity with sex involved (pornography, etc). To be honest, I don't believe that your wife watching you and your other wife have sex will resolve any jealousy, if anything it will probably feel odd and lust may even develop. There's a saying that mentions not playing with fire or you'll get burned (with lust?), but I also wouldn't stand to close to the fire neither, as one wife would be if she's watching you guys do your thing. I'm sure there are other ways to help resolve some jealousy between your wives other than having them watch you have sex.

 

[DaPastor]

Hello

Weighing all the principles throughout the Word of God regarding sex, nakedness, and covenantal marriage principles, I would suggest that the weight of Scripture does not encourage this kind of activity. One: Sex is a covenantal act between one man and one woman at a time. Two: Nakedness is only encouraged between covenantal partners (two women are not in marital covenant with each other - only with the man). Third: Since sex and nakedness is encouraged only between a husband and a wife based upon their marital covenant between each other, the marriage covenant is being compromised. My goodness, next someone will encourage the children to be in the room watching as well (I can hear the argument now. Scripture doesn't forbid it, you know!? I would say that the principles of Scripture forbids this activity as well).

If one is going to error, I would suggest that one error on the side of purity, not on the side of "how much can I get away with"!

 

[Lionking]

To daPastor, I say, right you are sir. You are perfectly correct.

Lionking.