Concubines: Biblical, Practical, and Worth Restoring

[NBTX11]

Much has been said about the headship over a woman. Is it possible to be a woman's headship without the sexual aspect? I have a few single women friends (without benefits) that welcome my praying over them and giving advice and helping them around their houses. Thoughts?

The question is, why? This is a bad idea. You’re giving away the duties of husband for free, while receiving no wife benefits in return. All the while she’s free to pursue other men. This sounds like a terrible idea to me. Not that you can’t help them once in a while, but to provide “headship”, performing husband like duties indefinitely seems like a waste of time. Help them find an actual husband or become one yourself.

If the relationships are actually headed towards marriage or you think it might be, then knock yourself out.

We see this in reverse all the time. Women giving away wifely duties (usually sex) for free without any permanent lifelong commitment by the man.

 

[Man_in_the_Middle]

I get that. That was embodied by the ex.

well, in my case, an actual sister. I felt sorry for her because she always had so much she wanted to talk about and her (multiple through the 30 years) men would tell her she talks to much and to shut up. I listened to it all. Business ideas, boyfriend troubles, husband troubles, divorce, miscarriages, baby, work woes, you name it. In a conversation one year ago, where I pointed out that the language she was using is the exact same language that women use when they have decided to divorce their husband without cause, (she was protesting that she did not want a divorce and that there was no reason for one), yet the language she was using was the same language I had heard from others. It made her angry and she told me that I did not care about anything women say.

This after listening to her crap for 30 years so that she would have an outlet..... Geesh! I expect to talk to her again as things happen, weddings and funerals etc. But I will not give her an outlet to vent ever again. I am done with that crap!

My wife, now she is altogether another story.... I will continue to make time for her. She knows I listen and that I care.

But, as with my sister, if it is not appreciated, why do it?

 

[Man_in_the_Middle]

BTW, less than 2 months after that conversation, my sister had moved out and had her own place. Still no divorce yet so who knows where it will end up....

 

[The Revolting Man]

But yet they, Biblically, exist.

Where does the Bible state that something doesn’t exist unless Yah defines it?
You look to be adding to the Word.

No. I’m refusing to add to the word. There is no definition of a concubine anywhere in scripture. We can’t add one.

 

[Joleneakamama]

What piece of trash father would penalize his kids because of the way he took their mother?

I think you are looking at this from a single perspective. Just for another angle...

I answered a business phone for 20 years without "pay" and helped build my husband's business. Our sons also worked for years building the business....investing money earned back into it. My husband didn't feel right about splitting that off and giving it to his step son, or newborn son who did nothing to earn it. Innstead of giving them an inheritance (give a man a fish?) he purposes to give them opportunities, like our sons had, to earn property and build their own businesses.

My sisterwife can expect to be cared for same as myself should something untimely happen to our husband, but if her sons are old enough to help provide for her it will absolutely be expected of them to do so.

What if our husband took on another? What if he trusted his older sons to manage his holdings and left them in charge? I believe they would be fair by their younger brothers in giving them a start and opportunities. That I think is enough.
To just give is not always the best.

 

[Joleneakamama]

Off course they love it.

They get household help without providing wifely duties enabling them to keep searching for another man.

Saw my hubby get used that way long time ago. He also took care of his mom, nieces, sisters. I think it's nice that now he has another who helps care for him!