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What are people's views on age gaps?

Search around the forum a bit. The topic comes up. Is your interest in 30+ men in general or are you searching for biblical/patriarchal men that serve God, raise families according to biblical principles and godly order, while expecting wives to submit to their husbands?
 
As others have pointed out, you are not alone @AydenSanden in preferring older men.
My sisterwife is 22 years younger than her husband while I am almost a year older than him. Neither "age gap" has bothered us.

What might make you less common than others who shared your preference is being aware of it at your age and as Julie pointed out actually joining a forum about marriage and families.

The real life retreats are way better than the forum, but there is also other less formal real life interactions that happen between people that meet here in cyberspace.
 
Personally, I do not prefer older men.... Now a younger woman is a whole other story! :)

joking aside, the problem with most younger women is that they lack the maturity for a relationship. Most are "here for a good time" and 12 years later are back asking, " where are all the good men at?" lol

Welcome to bibfam, I am sure that you will find this forum engaging on all topics surrounding biblical marriage. For better or for worse! lol
 
AydenSanden said:
So I'm new here and prolly should be quiet, but...I'm not the quiet type.

I'm wondering how people feel about age gaps in relationships? 18 here and generally do prefer much older 30+ guys. I know that's not typical, but it's what I do prefer.
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Refreshing.

I agree on this, too, with MitM. Far, FAR too many women (and men, too - but I'm not interested ;) ) don't ever reach the level of maturity, much less Scriptural understanding and obedience to His Instruction, to be worthy helpmeets.


(And if you're getting there before even reaching the age of 30 - kudos - that puts you in very Rarefied Territory. :) )
 
Mark C said:
Refreshing.

I agree on this, too, with MitM. Far, FAR too many women (and men, too - but I'm not interested ;) ) don't ever reach the level of maturity, much less Scriptural understanding and obedience to His Instruction, to be worthy helpmeets.


(And if you're getting there before even reaching the age of 30 - kudos - that puts you in very Rarefied Territory. :) )
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Lol, thanks Mark. I tried messaging you but still can't....sigh.
 
While the Bible doesn’t directly address the issue of age gap, prudence dictates that not only must obey the laws of the jurisdiction they live in but that a certain allowance be given to compatibility as well as the welfare of the woman and children. It is not wise to fate many women and children to be widows and orphans or many young women to be tied to husbands with diminished function.
AydenSanden said:
So I'm new here and prolly should be quiet, but...I'm not the quiet type.

I'm wondering how people feel about age gaps in relationships? 18 here and generally do prefer much older 30+ guys. I know that's not typical, but it's what I do prefer.
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I believe it’s natural, and the laws of nature support it. A man’s seed works throughout his lifetime, but for the woman she is typically only able to bear children up until her late 30’s.

Too many young women make the mistake of pursing the college path, so they can be able to afford to take care of themselves and buy their own house. The problem with that is by the time you get to that position - you’re in your 30’s. So the window to be fruitful and experience the blessing of children under a godly household starts to close. The worst part is that the corporations have no problem firing their employees; so they are not loyal to anyone but their shareholders.

So it’s rare today for a young woman to reject the college path, and simply seek a husband that can lead, provide, and love his family (These type of men are not in their 20’s, but typically they are in their 30’s and older).

A lot of that has to do with indoctrination, and fathers not leading their households. It’s not oppression to submit to the goals of the CEO in a corporation, but it’s oppression if she’s submissive to her own husband.

My own experience with my own wife - women need the man to take the lead. My wife didn’t necessarily like children, or want children. But we now have two very little boys (and a 3rd son on the way - HalleluYAH), and she absolutely loves being a stay at home mom.
 
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The Revolting Man said:
While the Bible doesn’t directly address the issue of age gap, prudence dictates that not only must obey the laws of the jurisdiction they live in but that a certain allowance be given to compatibility as well as the welfare of the woman and children. It is not wise to fate many women and children to be widows and orphans or many young women to be tied to husbands with diminished function.
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I think it’s natural. Men in my age group are typically much better off financially, spiritually, and emotionally intelligent, thus capable of truly providing and protecting a woman.
 
OttoM said:
I believe it’s natural, and the laws of nature support it. A man’s seed works throughout his lifetime, but for the woman she is typically only able to bear children up until her late 30’s.

Too many young women make the mistake of pursing the college path, so they can be able to afford to take care of themselves and buy their own house. The problem with that is by the time you get to that position - you’re in your 30’s. So the window to be fruitful and experience the blessing of children under a godly household starts to close. The worst part is that the corporations have no problem firing their employees; so they are not loyal to anyone but their shareholders.

So it’s rare today for a young woman to reject the college path, and simply seek a husband that can lead, provide, and love his family (These type of men are not in their 20’s, but typically they are in their 30’s and older).

A lot of that has to do with indoctrination, and fathers not leading their households. It’s not oppression to submit to the goals of the CEO in a corporation, but it’s oppression if she’s submissive to her own husband.

My own experience with my own wife - women need the man to take the lead. My wife didn’t necessarily like children, or want children. But we now have two very little boys (and a 3rd son on the way - HalleluYAH), and she absolutely loves being a stay at home mom.
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Yeah, I agree with you there.
 
AydenSanden said:
So I'm new here and prolly should be quiet, but...I'm not the quiet type.

I'm wondering how people feel about age gaps in relationships? 18 here and generally do prefer much older 30+ guys. I know that's not typical, but it's what I do prefer.
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It is pretty common in this environment.
Frequently if you are looking at joining a family as a young woman and you have the choice of a young couple just starting out and learning the ropes of life and marriage or a more established older and experienced couple who have lived more life and matured into their roles in life as well as having established the structure you can just slot into...lots of young woman like the idea of the security of established families and the idea of guidance and hopefully inherent wisdom that comes with more life under your belt.

Another good thing is that if you go with an older husband and likely sister wife, you will likely have a more stress free life parenting. People who have been there and done that as parents are going to be able to mentor you and help you get in the groove quickly.

Pretty much all of the plusses come back to security and structure of a more long term established family.

Been there and done that...the experience is invaluable.
 
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