Well, taking a woman to a western woke dei feminist culture like the USA would be a disaster.
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Older men and young women having families. What do you think?
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Hard disagree about the hypothetical 50ish guy not wanting more kids. Lots of us do and are Way more qualified for it now than in out 20s. I would like another 6 or 7.
Children are a blessing and joy.
In re our dysgenic atomizing culture having creates a bunch of 25 year old women who's maturation has been retarded...we should perhaps assume that some guy their own age is apt to be able to step into a mentor, teacher and guiding hand than the old polygynous guy who has lived more life and had a Lot of experience in this roll?
Not the intention to sound like a sarcastic duck here...genuinely...but this is pretty easy to lampoon.
I am just imagining how fast a polygynous family lead by a 25 year old gamer coomer dork with anxiety and depression.
That sounds Way more like the polyamory labeled rebranded stingers, not polygyny.
Re the notion of expecting the younger new wife to slot right in to the family, you have it back to front.
She would have an enormous amount of support. At least one new big sister to help guide and support her as well as a husband an hopefully a child of her own on the way to help cement her a a great new addition to everyone's happiness.
There is nothing remotely wrong with woman looking for the most qualified husband to be a leader and guide...just like there is nothing wrong with older guys liking the idea of more children and by extension younger women.
Man_in_the_Middle
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This is my life! While I agree with asyers41 that we should use wisdom, it is wisdom that drives a man who wants more ankle biters to choose a younger woman.
PaterFamilias, Well stated!
I think having lots of ankle biters is very wise!
If God grants us the blessing of young, healthy, child-bearing wives, who are we to argue or question His blessings!
I am in agreement with that.
I have however seen the other side of this, I know a FLDS family that the father was having children into I believe his 90s and he left a lot of children with out a father. It didn't seem like God gave him his wives for anything more than to be a curse to him as i see then as something he heaped to himself as some wives were daughters and possibly grand daughters.
The other side of this is that you now know some widows who are eligible for marriage, and who have already shown their willingness to embrace polygyny.
Yes, I am friends with three sisters who I very much enjoy, they are very kind and capable women however they hold deeply to their Mormon doctrines and because I do not agree, they don't see me as a suitable head as far as I understand. We have very similar views on marriage and many other things but compatible views when it comes to important doctrine.
This is where upholding biblical principles would make a real difference. Those women God says are off limits wouldn't be taken as wives.
That's always a great idea.
Too kind
I simply see it as perfectly natural.
We in my family have talked to a goodly number of young women who were very much looking for the stability, structure, safety and assurance that a more mature and established family brings to the table.
Plus if a man has managed to mature beyond the arrogance and impulsiveness of early manhood, he is in a better position to lead and guide...Likely be more patient with the occasional teething problems some polygynous families will experience and certainly more patient with children.
I know that I was that impulsive arrogant young man who did not remotely have the patience and more sound judgment that slowly pushed that younger man into memory.
Amen.
True, but that wouldn't necessarily hold true if a 90 year old Biblical Families member had wives and children and passed away.
Have they joined Biblical Families yet?
EDIT: We would have to let them know what Jesus said about marriage in the Resurrection.
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I would hope, if he was a member, he would have made godly choices in the first place.
Well that is the assumption, that a 90 year old BF member would choose wives that would at least marry a non-Mormon. If they would marry one, they are more likely to marry another. Either way, it addresses the issue that was raised about the 90 year old FLDS who has children. While it IS an issue in that his widows don't wish to marry a non-Mormon, it would not be so much an issue if a 90 year old BF member were to have children.
Thanks for the clarification. What can I say... when I'm 90 with my 15 ankle biters ripping around, I'm encouraged to know someone will step up and look after my five wise young wives. I'll be eternally indebted.
Indeed! In fact, you can go onto college campuses and challenge students, and if someone climbs up on a roof and nect thing you know, you slip into eternity, there are men who are willing to step up to the plate.Thanks for the clarification. What can I say... when I'm 90 with my 15 ankle biters ripping around, I'm encouraged to know someone will step up and look after my five wise young wives. I'll be eternally indebted.
That is a good way to look at it. I guess there is a good reason for godly community and being surrounded by godly brethren in an Assembly. If a man stops existing in this realm there is an able and capable men that can look after your wives and children. I also think that is a great understanding to pass to your wives, when one dies that at some point your hope is that they do re marry wisely in the lord if possible.