Birth control and abortionAlso the lack of children, and how those children were prevented. I truly believe that hormonal birth control has a lot to answer for.
Birth control and abortionAlso the lack of children, and how those children were prevented. I truly believe that hormonal birth control has a lot to answer for.
Yes, it's another reminder of the damage done to relationships and careers when people's beliefs contradict with God's Word. There are many stories with similar circumstances and just as tragic outcomes. And sadly, it will continue to happen.I knew a Bible College professor and pastor who had an affair with his secretary. It was a classic lovely lady meets handsome professor. He was summarily escorted off campus and church voted him out. I wonder how could this story have had a different outcome and a man retire in honor if monogamy were not verboten. He was an excellent professor, my favorite actually.
I agree that pride, sin, selfishness, and particularly unreasonable expectations are a serious problem. I think the unreasonable expectations especially arise from the faulty understanding of biblical marriage which both men and women have. We are all inclined to forget how bad we are, but not slow at all to recall to mind how bad our spouse is. A little more grace would go a long way for us all.I certainly agree that a proper biblical view would help.....but pride, sin, selfishness and other aspects like UNREASONABLE EXPECTATIONS are equally to blame for failed marriages.
Is Monogamy a Key Cause of High Divorce Rates?
There is certainly a set of circumstances where this is true; the obvious being where the man is built for polygamy (it's not for everyone). Then there are some other subcases where say the wife is not very mature, or even overbearing. In such cases I think having a 2nd wife who serves as a positive example for the 1st, even loving her and giving of herself for the 1st can cause some *massive* introspection.We’ve all heard it said that polygyny leads to jealousy, chaos, and broken homes. But what if the truth is the opposite?
What if the modern obsession with monogamy, especially forced monogamy, has created a fragile, unrealistic expectation of marriage? What if men were never meant to pour every ounce of leadership, provision, emotional connection, and physical energy into one woman, and what if that very burden is why so many burn out and walk away?
Let’s consider:
- The Bible never commands monogamy.
- Most of the patriarchs had multiple wives.
- Monogamy is a Greco-Roman ideal, not a Hebrew one.
- And the modern West, with its rigid one-man-one-woman model, has the highest divorce rates in history.
Could it be that monogamy isn't sacred, it's just normal in a broken world?
Could it be that polygyny is God's relief valve, His way to expand households, share the burden of womanly workload, and build stable generational families?
Let’s discuss it. Seriously, and Biblically.
—Jason Cook
Absolutely spot on. You’ve laid out several powerful and much-needed truths here that most churches today won’t touch with a ten-foot pole. Forced monogamy has created a hyper-jealous culture where women are taught to police their husband’s eyes, thoughts, and even basic social interactions, rather than being taught to trust, serve, and build with him.The Modern Forced Monogamy has created many unrealistic expectations for marriage. For Example, a woman having a fight with her husband looking at a woman who passed by or some women are so insecure that their man can’t speak to a woman co-worker without her flipping out on her husband. Also, Scripturally speaking I do not believe that the woman has a Biblical right to file for divorce from her husband based on Deuteronomy 24:1-3. We never see anywhere in Scripture where the woman is the initiator of a divorce. The Scripture clearly shows that the man is to give the bill of divorcement and send her out of his home. This is not to be confused with putting away as putting away is not a divorce it is more like what we would think of in today’s terms as a legal separation. The goal of separation should always be reunification with a spouse. Are there times that reunification is not possible? Yes, for example in the case of adultery. Let me define my view of adultery as a woman sleeping with a man who is not her husband or a man sleeping with another man’s wife. A man taking a single woman is not adultery as she does not already belong to another man. The modern forced Monogamy takes the Bible out of context and says Hey Man you can’t look at that single cause if you do you are committing adultery and that is not what Jesus said at all. The Modern Day Church is doing exactly what Jesus told the Pharisees that they were doing in honoring them with their lips but were far from him.
I remember my sisterwife saying that she thought the benefits of polygyny for single moms in particular were not talked about enough, even here.This is why I am writing a book for Polygynous women written by a Polygynous woman.
Overall, I mostly agree. But, I think a very good case could be made for a woman initiating a divorce when her life is at risk. I understand that’s a little off topic, and a separate thread can be formed, but i think it’s necessary to consider.The Modern Forced Monogamy has created many unrealistic expectations for marriage. For Example, a woman having a fight with her husband looking at a woman who passed by or some women are so insecure that their man can’t speak to a woman co-worker without her flipping out on her husband. Also, Scripturally speaking I do not believe that the woman has a Biblical right to file for divorce from her husband based on Deuteronomy 24:1-3. We never see anywhere in Scripture where the woman is the initiator of a divorce. The Scripture clearly shows that the man is to give the bill of divorcement and send her out of his home. This is not to be confused with putting away as putting away is not a divorce it is more like what we would think of in today’s terms as a legal separation. The goal of separation should always be reunification with a spouse. Are there times that reunification is not possible? Yes, for example in the case of adultery. Let me define my view of adultery as a woman sleeping with a man who is not her husband or a man sleeping with another man’s wife. A man taking a single woman is not adultery as she does not already belong to another man. The modern forced Monogamy takes the Bible out of context and says Hey Man you can’t look at that single cause if you do you are committing adultery and that is not what Jesus said at all. The Modern Day Church is doing exactly what Jesus told the Pharisees that they were doing in honoring them with their lips but were far from him.
So I still don’t believe in this case that a woman can file a divorce. She could however, put herself away until such a time when he has sought appropriate counsel and healing. Biblically speaking a woman has zero authority to file divorce no matter what the cause. I realize that is going to probably be an unpopular opinion but nowhere do we see a woman in scripture giving a bill of divorce to a man. Abigail did no such thing when Nabal was being harsh and foolish. She waited for his death and then David took Abigail to be his wife.Overall, I mostly agree. But, I think a very good case could be made for a woman initiating a divorce when her life is at risk. I understand that’s a little off topic, and a separate thread can be formed, but i think it’s necessary to consider.
Fixed it for you.Let me define my view of adultery as a woman who belongs to another man sleeping with a man who is not her husband or a man sleeping with another man’s wife.
Amen. A big part of the problem is that most 'sunday-xtians' don't understand that the Hebrew word "isha" has been too-often conflated with just 'woman.' It OFTEN means 'wife,' and context is key.Fixed it for you.
Officially only.Biblically speaking a woman has zero authority to file divorce no matter what the cause. I realize that is going to probably be an unpopular opinion but nowhere do we see a woman in scripture giving a bill of divorce to a man.
breaking a covenant does not void the covenant. Adultery is breaking of the covenant but still does not void the covenant.Officially only.
What is putting another person life at risk called? Murder, manslaughter. Husband won't be long on this world.
Also, any non-moronic legal system will put away women from man simply to stop potential death.
Also, food is wife's right and depriving food on purpose is murder attempt. It also breaks coventant which is marriage breaking by itself like non-paying for work breaks employee-employer contact.
So I doubt marriage even exist between potential murderer and his victim.
It sounds like he is saying that the man was made for the woman, to be her helper. That is the exact opposite of what the Bible said. The woman was made for the man, to be his helper.I would say that it definitely contributes. I sat in a marriage class at church where this man speaks out both sides of his mouth. He says God’s design in is one man serving one woman for one lifetime. This lie creates the perspective that the woman is supposed to be put on a pedestal. This leads to amazing problems in marriage and this leads to the downfall of many marriages.