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Man_in_the_Middle said:
I must say... As I see more and more of how the women behave online, my overall opinion of women has dropped considerably. Not all women, I know.... But, this is not an encouraging thing to see.
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I think people can put up a facade whether it's online or a chance meeting in the street. And that's both males and females. However, most can't keep up a fake persona for very long and that's why regular personal interactions are important, either video chats or face to face.

We're mostly looking for unicorns, so the challenge is finding the place where the unicorns graze. From my point of view, there's nothing to be gained by looking around the place where hippos bathe or where the pigs play in the mud. Cheers
 
frederick said:
I think people can put up a facade whether it's online or a chance meeting in the street. And that's both males and females. However, most can't keep up a fake persona for very long and that's why regular personal interactions are important, either video chats or face to face.

We're mostly looking for unicorns, so the challenge is finding the place where the unicorns graze. From my point of view, there's nothing to be gained by looking around the place where hippos bathe or where the pigs play in the mud. Cheers
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lol Good analogy! :)

The closest I have came to so far was a lovely lady from oversees that I met through a work related meeting. She was from a Muslim country where wives are treated terribly. This led her to having severe distrust of all men. She was raised on Disney and had adopted the Disney princess concept and could not accept anything else...

Sadly, she is aging out and does not realize it... :-(
 
Tables are stacked against us - especially if pursuing a 2nd wife - but by YAH's grace I don't doubt it can't be done. But without our Head and King in the picture - Yahoshua (Jesus) - you can forget about it. Doesn't mean we can't find a 2nd wife - sure that's possible - but that 2nd wife being a godly woman who's going to be a blessing and not a curse to the household - almost impossible without walking in obedience to our Head - which is Messiah.
 
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OttoM said:
Tables are stacked against us - especially if pursuing a 2nd wife - but by YAH's grace I don't doubt it can't be done. But without our Head and King in the picture - Yahoshua (Jesus) - you can forget about it. Doesn't mean we can't find a 2nd wife - sure that's possible - but that 2nd wife being a godly woman who's going to be a blessing and not a curse to the household - almost impossible without walking in obedience to our Head - which is Messiah.
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The stack may not look promising but the odds are always in God's favor. What will be attractive to a godly woman is a strong godly man and what will be attractive to a strong godly man is a godly woman. Sometimes I get the impression women are finding it just as difficult to find the right kind of man. It's like unicorns looking for other unicorns.
 
OttoM said:
Tables are stacked against us - especially if pursuing a 2nd wife - but by YAH's grace I don't doubt it can't be done. But without our Head and King in the picture - Yahoshua (Jesus) - you can forget about it. Doesn't mean we can't find a 2nd wife - sure that's possible - but that 2nd wife being a godly woman who's going to be a blessing and not a curse to the household - almost impossible without walking in obedience to our Head - which is Messiah.
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yes! And because I am looking for more than simply a warm body, it seems daunting. I don't want anyone that brings a curse to my home regardless of how attractive and sweet she may appear. And as for Godly women, so many Godly woman have been taught MO that the field is winnowed down even further...

Thanks for the encouragement and reminder that Yah is in control.
 
frederick said:
The stack may not look promising but the odds are always in God's favor. What will be attractive to a godly woman is a strong godly man and what will be attractive to a strong godly man is a godly woman. Sometimes I get the impression women are finding it just as difficult to find the right kind of man. It's like unicorns looking for other unicorns.
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You are right! Yah is always able to take what is difficult and seemingly impossible and make it work out for his own good and to the blessing of those that he chooses to bless.

I pray that his will be done in my life.

Thanks for the encouragement and reminder that Yah is in control.
 
David D said:
The only thing I found with dating sites it I got to talk to quite few "Christian" women about biblical marriage that may never have heard of the concept. Pretty much all of it ended in rejection and me greeting called a cheater and blocked but I used to do sales so I got used to rejection :)
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We gotta work on our pickup lines.
 
Heavens Declare said:
We gotta work on our pickup lines.
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That's easy. Buy a bouquet of flowers and walk across town. Have a few single flowers to pass out to women who want to be your gf or propose marriage as they watch you walk by. ;)

But be extra vigilant to avoid ladyboys who might also be enthusiastic in their approach. They can be darn persistent if you even get close to mistakenly offer a flower. 🫣
 
frederick said:
That's easy. Buy a bouquet of flowers and walk across town. Have a few single flowers to pass out to women who want to be your gf or propose marriage as they watch you walk by. ;)

But be extra vigilant to avoid ladyboys who might also be enthusiastic in their approach. They can be darn persistent if you even get close to mistakenly offer a flower. 🫣
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Oh man. I got fooled *twice* in my 20s... the one was my fault, they said they graduated from Wabash... Wabash is a men's college in Indiana that was like 2 hours from me, it didn't even register, they looked completely feminine, it wasn't until the first date whent he waitress goes "What can I get you gentlemen" it clicked in my brain and I was like "So how was Wabash?" just to confirm they had gone to Wabash... check pelase.
 
UtahLife said:
Oh man. I got fooled *twice* in my 20s... the one was my fault, they said they graduated from Wabash... Wabash is a men's college in Indiana that was like 2 hours from me, it didn't even register, they looked completely feminine, it wasn't until the first date whent he waitress goes "What can I get you gentlemen" it clicked in my brain and I was like "So how was Wabash?" just to confirm they had gone to Wabash... check pelase.
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Shudder ! ! ! !
 
Man_in_the_Middle said:
I have discovered an interesting thing. On dating sites that show if a message has been read or not, the vast majority of my messages go unread.
The messages do not show profile pics, they just show the name and the message.
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This is actually normal.

Dating apps so have several more times men than women. I heard Tinder is 3:1 male:female ratio. No wonder women don't respond. They have more choice.

There is also fact that dating app don't have "social pressure". Risk rejection in real life, in front of somebody. So men often to send messages to women "machine gun" style.

So women are overhelmed with messages.

Anyway, dating apps are so unlike real life that drawing conclusions from them about sexuality is unwise.
 
If you are new to polygamy, by all means try the dating sites. It is a rite of passage. LOL.

Funny. Every once in a while I go back and look and years later it seems like all of the old accounts are still there.

And you get an e-mail saying this beautiful thing wants to talk to YOU, but you have to pay to talk back, and if you do, then all of a sudden she has nothing to say anymore. Hmm... I am sure those accounts are not managed by the site admins, right? I mean that would be dishonest.
 
cnystrom said:
P.S. I even used a picture with a cute puppy in it! Talk about desperate!
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How many offers of marriage did the cute puppy get? If the puppy got more attention, maybe you can get the same grooming package for yourself(?) :)
 
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