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Is Monogamy a Key Cause of High Divorce Rates?
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I knew a Bible College professor and pastor who had an affair with his secretary. It was a classic lovely lady meets handsome professor. He was summarily escorted off campus and church voted him out. I wonder how could this story have had a different outcome and a man retire in honor if monogamy were not verboten. He was an excellent professor, my favorite actually.
Yes, it's another reminder of the damage done to relationships and careers when people's beliefs contradict with God's Word. There are many stories with similar circumstances and just as tragic outcomes. And sadly, it will continue to happen.
I would say that it definitely contributes. I sat in a marriage class at church where this man speaks out both sides of his mouth. He says God’s design in is one man serving one woman for one lifetime. This lie creates the perspective that the woman is supposed to be put on a pedestal. This leads to amazing problems in marriage and this leads to the downfall of many marriages.
To answer the title question, I would say no.
I would be more inclined to agree with the old tune that sings "It's my belief pride is the chief cause of the decline in the numbers of husbands and wives."
I do think monogamy only may in some cases be the reason a man divorces his wife or the reason a wife leaves/divorces her husband.
Wives who were made to be monogamous judge their husbands unjustly from a feminine point of view. Husbands are guilted for loving another. Men divorce to pursue the relationship with the second...or wives leave because they feel replaced.
I certainly agree that a proper biblical view would help.....but pride, sin, selfishness and other aspects like UNREASONABLE EXPECTATIONS are equally to blame for failed marriages.
I would be more inclined to agree with the old tune that sings "It's my belief pride is the chief cause of the decline in the numbers of husbands and wives."
I do think monogamy only may in some cases be the reason a man divorces his wife or the reason a wife leaves/divorces her husband.
Wives who were made to be monogamous judge their husbands unjustly from a feminine point of view. Husbands are guilted for loving another. Men divorce to pursue the relationship with the second...or wives leave because they feel replaced.
I certainly agree that a proper biblical view would help.....but pride, sin, selfishness and other aspects like UNREASONABLE EXPECTATIONS are equally to blame for failed marriages.
I agree that pride, sin, selfishness, and particularly unreasonable expectations are a serious problem. I think the unreasonable expectations especially arise from the faulty understanding of biblical marriage which both men and women have. We are all inclined to forget how bad we are, but not slow at all to recall to mind how bad our spouse is. A little more grace would go a long way for us all.